Brett Jolly’s Daily Thought (Topic: “Comfort Zones in relationships”)

“Comfort zones and how we react when taken out of them.” In relationships people often go “out” of their comfort zone just to accommodate their loved ones, but how far are you willing to extend yourself? For example, your partner may like for you to just listen whenever he or she has a problem. That is fine, but if the problem is just a mistaken assumption (and not really a problem at all), then how far do you let it go before interrupting them to let the truth be known? Some people don’t care about fixing the problem, but just need to vent, so would it make sense to just let them vent unnecessarily or correct the problem immediately? Keep in mind that when you allow someone to vent for a long time uninterrupted then you are basically just wasting time listening to an issue that has no real meaning to it. Also, when talking on the phone, how much time is “too much?” You would always like to be available each and every time your loved one calls, but if you have “any” degree of employment or responsibility then you can’t expect to be available every time. Also, when you do speak on the phone, how long is your attention span? When you are busy, can you listen to a long conversation about something that you may consider to be  really small or insignificant for a long while? We all have “comfort zones” and your relationship could very well hinge on just how “comfortable” you are with yours. I think the most important thing in relationships is to “recognize” your partner’s “comfort zone.” If you know that your partner does not like to argue or debate meaningless issues then would it make sense to force one? If you know that your lover is no longer very attentive after about 15 minutes on the phone would you still want to try to “squeeze” a 45 minute conversation out of him or her? We all have needs, and if you are in a relationship you can best bet that you will at some point have your comfort zone “tested.” There is nothing wrong with going out of your comfort zone, but if you are “expected to continually do so” then that might be a cause for concern. Relationships are not perfect, because the people in them are not perfect. If you love the person you are with, then by all means  try to understand their “comfort zone” and that way  you can make your relationship much better and stronger. Sometimes it is the “little” things that can make the “biggest of differences.” Work it out… “together”… Thank you for checking out my Daily Thought and I hope your day is awesome.

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