Me. Jolly, I have checked out your articles and I am amazed at some of the things women say they are going through just to find a good man. I am a male who doesn’t smoke, drink, abuse, fight, curse, and I am not bad looking at all. I would treat my woman like a queen. Many consider me to be a great catch, but no woman wants me because I am 5’7 in height. It seems like all women want taller men, so they opt for those who have better height but yet will eventually mistreat them. Why is it that women complain about finding a good man but yet will ignore one because of a physicality?
When searching for love, sometimes we all have what we call our “dream” dates. We set in our minds what our future mates are going to look like, and then we try to find someone who “fits” the category. I remember years ago a lady who I knew as “Irene” was looking for love. Irene was a good Christian woman and she was tall and looked great. She was having problems finding a man for herself, so she prayed to God about it and also joined this Christian dating site. While on the site, she kept getting messages from guys who were not appealing to her physically. Since she was tall, she wanted a man who was somewhat like her: light skinned, tall and fit. She was feeling frustrated because none of the men that wanted her fit that description. One guy in particular kept on bothering her and told her he wanted to meet her. They lived a good ways apart, so one day she decided that she would at least meet up with this one guy. He was dark skinned, shorter than her and did not have the muscles that she wanted. She didn’t like him at all, but over time he showed her that he really cared for her, and he wore her resistance down over time. Well, eventually they ended up getting married with children, and she said that this man ended up being the perfect choice for her. You see, she asked God for what she wanted, but instead God gave her what she “needed.” I mention this story because a lot of women (and a lot of men) are not sure of what they really “need” in a relationship, and while many are stuck on the physical features, many end up learning that true love is found “within” the person. One seminar advertised a chance for women to meet a millionaire, so many women came to the seminar to meet up with one. What they didn’t realize was that once they entered the door, they ALL met the good looking millionaire guy, but they ignored him because he was secretly dressed as the “janitor” at the door. He said hello to all the ladies and each one of them passed him by. When it was revealed later on all of the women felt bad about mistreating this guy. I am mentioning this because most of us “don’t really know” what we need in our relationships. Given time many of the women you have attempted to date will realize what a good man you are, and you will eventually find the woman of your dreams. I can guarantee that you will eventually find a woman who loves your heart more than your height, but it is important for you to love yourself as well. You don’t need to be 6 foot 2 to get a woman, because if your character is sincere then you “already” have an advantage over taller men. If you are resentful then women will “sense” that within you and shut you off based on your own feelings about yourself. Don”t let your height be your shortcoming in life… Be proud of who and what you are, and ta woman of good character will most certainly “notice.” Love will find you, if you only “allow” it. Good luck to you, and have a great day.
The Emotions (“You got the best of my love” and “Boogie Wonderland”) and Brett Jolly in concert