Brett Jolly’s Daily Thought (Topic: Testament to my mother)

Yesterday I had a very busy day. I had to perform for an afternoon event in Washington, DC but before leaving out my family and I got up around 7:00 am to go visit the grave site of my mother, Rowena A. Jolly. Yesterday was her birthday, and even though she passed away on December 14 of 2004 we still honor her day of birth. I had my father, brother, daughter, and son with me as we all said prayers and small speeches. I honor my mother not because I thought she was “perfect.” The truth is that she wasn’t perfect, and none of us are either. I honor her because even though she had imperfections, she actually conquered a “lot” of her demons during her life (as opposed to her demons conquering “her”). Mom smoked and she drank, and often there were times when she was a danger to us as well as herself, but Mom managed to “right” the wrongs in her life and conquered both addictions well before her death. I am mentioning her today because I realize that there are “some” people out there who will criticize, hate, and barely tolerate one or both of their parents. Rather than pass judgment, I prefer to attempt to “understand” the reasons as to why people are “what they are” and why they “do what they do.” For instance, a man could be brought to court because he attempted to rob a bank. In hearing this case on the surface, a lot of people will “already” say that “he is getting what he deserves” and “I hope he gets put UNDER the jail.” However, when you consider the fact that this man could have lost his parents at an early age, could have come from a broken home, or could have been heavily abused as a child then it “might” make you have more sympathy. I make no excuses for my mother, and I love her unconditionally. For me, it is never about where you come from, but rather where you are headed. We all joined hands and quietly sang “Happy birthday” at the tombstone,  and then left to tackle the rest of our day. If you have a mother or father who is still on this earth, I hope you take a moment to “get to know” him or her, and if you have a “strained” relationship, maybe after your talk you can  help to make amends by just simply listening and then saying “I understand…” Once a parent is gone, then there isn’t much making up that you can do. We ALL can change, but “only” if we are “willing” to look “beyond the surface…” Good luck to you today, and I wish you the very best that life has to offer…

Patti Labelle and Brett Jolly in concert



One thought on “Brett Jolly’s Daily Thought (Topic: Testament to my mother)

  1. Karen Knowles Davis says:

    This was beautiful, Brett! Thanks for sharing.

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