Brett Jolly’s Daily Thought (Topic: The difference between love and “being in love”)

Hello Mr. Jolly. I like reading your topics and your answers. I have an interesting question for you. When a man tells a woman that he loves her but he is not IN LOVE with her, what does he really mean?

Each man is different (to some extent) so I can’t say I am talking for each and every man out there, but for the “majority” of them I will just say that the man is telling you that he loves you enough to be “with” you, but he “doesn’t” love you enough where he can’t live “without” you. When you’re “in love” with someone it is physical, emotional and from the heart (in other words, “everything”). When you just “love” someone it is more like a “surface” thing. Kids love their parents, people love their pets, mice love cheese. When you just love someone you have much more control over how you feel. For instance, you might love someone until they do something totally disrespectful to you (and then you might hate their guts after that). When you’re “in love” with someone you just can’t “shut it off.” You will continue to love that person through all the bad things. If a man said that to you, then I still think it would be best if you ask him to define it for you. If he tells  you that he can’t define it then that just means that he was confused to begin with. Usually when a man says that to a woman it is “not” necessarily what she would want to hear if they are in a relationship together. Some people have no problems throwing out the world love like it is simple to say, but those who are “in love” will say it with much more than just words… I will say this much: If a man isn’t “in love” with you, then he should not be “in bed” with you either. Make sure you know where his head is “before” you take the “plunge.” Finally, some people are not even sure if they know what being in love is, or if they are even feeling it. Since being in love with someone is internal, then that should mean that if they don’t feel it then it just “isn’t there.” When you are “in love” there is “no” confusion about it. I hope I was helpful today and thank you for submitting your topic. I hope you have an awesome day.

 

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