Brett Jolly’s Daily Thought (Topic: Too early for marriage talk?)

Mr. Jolly, I recently met this man a few weeks ago, and while he  seems nice he keeps telling me that he is looking for a wife. While there is nothing wrong with feeling that way I think it is way too soon to even think about marriage. He keeps telling me this as though he is guaranteed to marry me. I still don’t know him that well yet. I have never met his family, been to his place of employment or even seen where he lives yet. Should I be concerned over his repeated statements?

I honesty think you should. I would think that any man who talks about marriage so early in a relationship is only doing so to “entice you.” It is quite possible that he is only telling you “what he thinks you want to hear.” How can anyone even “consider” marrying someone they hardly know? In fact, this is a question that you might want to consider “asking him.” While marriage is a great institution, the fact is that the focus should “not” be on “getting married” but rather on getting married “to the one you love.” If he says he is intent on getting married to “just about anyone” then he should NOT be the one for you. If he says he is intent on marrying you without first getting to know you then that is also alarming. I would “strongly” suggest that you get to know “HIM” WELL before proceeding to ANY kind of “next level” with  him. It is possible that his whole situation could be a ruse. In the meantime, you may not want to take this guy “seriously” until he steps up his game (and I do mean “game”). Let him say whatever he wants. It is what he “does” that will tell the “true” story. Good luck to you, and please welcome this great tribute from the Phantom Poet:

This man keeps telling me that there is an empty space in his life
He keeps reiterating to me that he wants to find a wife
He keeps repeating this message as if he wants to show me
But the truth of the matter is that he really doesn’t know me
I am starting to wonder just what kind of drugs he must be on
Because he doesn’t know that I know his wife from the hair salon
She already told me that their marriage is not on the skids
In fact, at this juncture they actually have two and a half kids
She told me that her and her husband are happy in their situation
I then let her know that I secretly “videotaped” his and my conversation
She said that she thought he was cheating but she just wasn’t sure “how”
She then told me that he REALLY will be “looking for a wife” now
She invited him home to meet “this new friend I found”
After he saw that it was “me” she started “slapping him around”
She hit him so hard that at one point the whole house shook
I never realized that this little woman could have such a devastating “right hook”
He tried to tell her that he didn’t cheat yet, and she screamed out “You’re lying”
She then told him that she was whipping him down because he was “trying”
He was trying his best to explain and say a whole lot more
But if is difficult to say much when you’re unconscious on the floor
She thanked me for letting her know, and then I was on my merry way
And I felt good knowing that I put a cheater in his place, on this great day…

“One down, many more to go”… The Phantom Poet

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Verdine White, bassist for Earth, Wind and Fire, and Brett Jolly