Subject: My husband wants me to be a slut
 
A few months ago, I attended my 25th high school reunion. I ended up having too much to drink and sleeping with one of the “popular guys” from my class. Feeling guilty, I confessed to my husband. But he was turned on, and our sex life has never been better. He even said he wouldn’t mind if I slept with other guys. I feel like a slut, but I’ve never enjoyed sex more. Am I normal?

No, but I bet you’re one Hell of a date! Thank goodness you didn’t attend the “Million man March”… It is considered normal to want sex. Most people do.  I just don’t think it is normal for your husband to want you to have sex with everyone else (most husbands don’t). While what you are doing may not be considered “morally” proper, if it fuels new life into your marriage then it could actually prove beneficial. You need to be cautious and careful, though, because this kind of activity can get out of hand quickly if you are not careful. The good thing you have going on IS the fact that you ARE married, you are honest with each other, and you both seem to “accept” this type of lifestyle. If you’re “married” and your husband likes this lifestyle, then technically you are not a “slut”. I believe the official term for you would be “free spirit”. I do have one question, though. Does your husband like this because it turns him on or because he likes to fool around with other women too? What you did at this point might have given him the “go ahead” to be intimate with other women and THAT might be the main reason why this makes him so happy. I am also surprised that he didn’t mention his desire for you to engage other men BEFORE you got married. Finally, you may want to get treatment for alcohol addiction or dependency. I am not saying that you are an alcoholic, but if you can get impaired enough to sleep with someone at a party then you could also do some serious damage to yourself one day. It only takes one mistake to change your life completely. Make sure you remember that your PRIMARY sex partner is your husband, so you shouldn’t want to bring anything home to him that can’t be cured. If you are going to have an open marriage, then at least make sure you take all the precautions needed to keep your marriage SAFE. For the record, I am “NOT” telling you to go out and have a promiscuous sex life. THAT is between “you and your husband.” I am, however, telling you to take precautions if this is your choice. The love you save may just be your own…  Here is the Phantom Poet to finish off our weekend:
 
I went to a reunion, and got severely intoxicated
Then got with a classmate, and things became sex related
To all his sexual needs I decided to cater
Now instead of Alma mater, it’s now called “Alma-mate-her”
I felt so bad, but I had to let my husband know
Yet when he found out he said, “Girl, way to go!”
I thought something like this would make him mad… I thought he would be gone
But instead he just smiled and said, “The thought of that just turns me on”.
He said, “If you want to have sex with more guys, you can do so with my blessing”
In fact, I wouldn’t mind being there when you both start undressing
So I told him I wanted to have flings with Jay-Z, Mitt Romney and even Kanye West
When I mentioned the Philadelphia Eagles team, he said, “Please be my guest”
In fact, one of the ways that player contracts negotiations remained intact
Was the owners had a “one night stand with me” clause instilled into the contract
It seems to turn my husband on when I tell him who, how, where and what
And for some reason he LOVES to hear that I’ve been such a dirty slut
My husband really loves me, and our marriage now is really neat
I just let him know that I’m about to get it on with some derelict up the street
I couldn’t believe that I would stoop to such levels… Nothing I do will amaze me
The bum shook his head and said, “I may be broke, but I damn sure ain’t crazy”
He got up and left, and instead of having sex with me, he fled
While running away he kept mumbling about some b#$%^ being crazy in the head
I am not afraid to confront other men, even though I am sure they will ask, “What is this?”
Maybe I should just hang a sign from my belt that says “Open for Business”
So if your husband is a freak, then try make your marriage last forever and a day
And make him proud to know that you’ve been a slut in every way
We ALL might do strange things for love, because life is the way it is
So I don’t mind my husband being my slut, as long as he doesn’t mind me being his…
 
“Baby, I am so happy… I just saw your picture on the men’s room wall”

 

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Brett Jolly’s Daily Thought (Topic: Husband wants me to be a slut)