Brett Jolly’s Daily Thought (Topic: Where are my friends?)

Subject: Where have my friends gone?
 
I had to quit my job because of a sudden illness. After 35 years on the job I thought I had created some great friendships. We would go to lunch together, out for drinks after work, to each other’s houses for birthdays, graduations, baby showers, etc. I am heartbroken now to find out these friendships were only valued by me. I would call my friends on the job only to be told I have to take this other call, I’ll call you back, that was 6 months ago, None of them have even bothered to come visit me to see how I am doing. Should I write these friendships off?
 
Unfortunately, I think your friends have already written it off for you… Sometimes it is important to recognize the signs. It is quite possible that they could have forgotten to call you back, but if you have called several times and they have not returned your calls that is usually a sign that they are no longer interested in being your friends like they were. If I were you, I would not try to pursue or pressure them, because it might only make things worse.  If these people value your friendship at all, then they will eventually contact you in their own time. Otherwise I think you need to write this one off. It is very unfortunate because what they did to you can easily be done to them once they stop working. A friend is a truly valuable asset to have, but being able to “recognize” a good friend is even more valuable. If nothing else, enjoy your friendship with that “man in the mirror” and try to avoid looking over your shoulder at the people in your life who once “were considered” your friends. Your life is just beginning. Don’t be afraid to start anew. If you don’t believe me, then just ask the Phantom Poet:
 
My co-workers and I used to party a lot together
Now whenever I ask them to go out, they respond by saying “Whatever”
I had to quit my job because I suddenly became ill
And when I ask them to call me back, none of them will
After thirty-five years, I thought we were tighter than that
I feel like a Republican trying to befriend a Democrat
“Live and let live”… That has always been my motto…
But now I know those bastards will be calling me soon, because I just hit the Lotto
My picture is on the front page of the newspaper, holding a big behind check
Ah, one of them is ringing my phone right now, I suspect…
“Hi, good friend…Great to hear from you, but your reception sounds real muddy
“Please tell me what I can do for you this day, good buddy?”
“Oh, you say there are problems at the job, and everyone is feeling tension?”
“You think everyone is going to get laid off and even lose their pension?”
“Just thinking about that situation brings me to a tear”
“But I’m trying to figure out why you are even calling me here”
“You say that soon all of my friends are going to be jobless and broke”
“Well I’m now laughing, because to me this is all a big joke”
“After I left, I couldn’t get any of y’all to call me back”
“Now you’re blowing up my phone… Well, what’s up with THAT?”
“Well, I want you all to know that I am doing just fine”
”I will be thinking of you guys when I pass the unemployment line”
“I know you guys will be busy, so I don’t intend to trouble you”
“I will just wave as I drive by in my new BMW”
“There is no need for us to get together for old time’s sake”
“Just because I won a couple of million… give or take
“Well, my good friend, it was great to hear from you”
“But if you expect any money from me, then I’d be dumb too”
“Though I may not be that smart, but I am most certainly rich”
“Tell you what, though…I can treat you all to a hot chicken sandwich”
“It was great to hear from you, but I have to go…Really, I do…”
“I will always remember you as great guys I once knew”
“So before I head towards my journey’s end
I hope you have learned that there is NOTHING more valuable…than a really good friend…
 
                                       Right on! The Phantom Poet

If you have a topic that you would like to feature on my Daily Thought, feel free to email me at Brett@Love-notes.co

 

Gary U.S. Bonds and Brett Jolly in concert

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