Brett Jolly’s Daily Thought (Topic: Mother’s drunk and abusive husband)

Subject: My mother’s drunk and abusive husband


My mother is a 66-year-old widow. My stepfather was verbally abusive and died an alcoholic. Mom met and starting dating this man, and guess what? He turned out to be an alcoholic. They eloped and their good times are spent at the local pub. I have no interest in getting to know this man and think she made a huge mistake. She is making money & personal decisions that will only end up having consequences for her. Am I being rude keeping my children away from her while she is married to loser husband number 3?


You should never stop looking out for your mother, but you also have to respect her desire to independently live her life. Since your mother had a really tough time with your father you’d think she would have learned her lesson and would not tolerate another alcoholic. However, at the age of 66 your mother is only looking to be happy with someone, and probably figures the only man left for her is “another” alcoholic. You have every right to be concerned, but I do believe your mother “might” be of legal dating age now (smile) and is still capable of making her own decisions. While you may not like the man she is dealing with, that is no reason to keep her grandchildren away from her. If something tragic happened to her tomorrow then you (and your children) could end up regretting that decision, and kids need to know their grandparents while they are still alive. Hopefully you won’t deny them that right. I have found that with many older couples the women usually “outlive” the men (sometimes I think as women get older, they get smarter and just “kill” them off). I personally think your mother just needs a companion to go to the pub with, and who better to take her than an alcoholic? At the age of 66 I doubt very seriously that he can get her pregnant, and unless he is also verbally or physically abusive (like the former stepfather) then it may not be that bad. I can relate to how you feel (My mother was at one point in her life an alcoholic), but you need to keep the welfare of your mom in mind. If she likes the pub, then it is best to go there with someone who drinks. As long as her new husband is not abusive towards the children or your mother, then you should bring the children by to see their grandmother. However, if he turns out to be abusive too, then your children should NOT be subjected to that, and you need to give “Mr. Newlywed” a stern lecture about how to behave. You may want to carry a “two by four” for special emphasis. Even the worst of drunks can relate to that (especially when it looks like there are two or three of them headed their way at once). For the record, please don’t ever use your kids as weapons in adult matters. No one wins in that situation, including the kids. Get to know this man and make sure that he understands he cannot be abusive to your mother or anyone else in your family. Set the record straight, and help your mother stay happy while still looking out for her best interests… In the meantime, let’s have a toast to this new revelation from the Phantom Poet:





My 66-year-old mother went and eloped today

She married an alcoholic who just happens to “drink” that way

Her previous husband was a drunk who just recently died

And at his funeral, only the owners of the state store cried

I don’t want my kids to be around that type of setting

So no visits from us you will now be getting

Her previous husband was verbally abusive

I decided to keep my kids away, and that was conclusive

He’s got just one time to act the fool

He may find himself laying face down…in the pool

I will tolerate no such crap while my children are around

Because I seriously know how to beat an old man down

And should you decide to strike back at me

You’d be too drunk, and you can’t hit what you can’t see

And when it comes to my mom, don’t expect to do anything out of the norm

And most important, make SURE you fill out this insurance form

Having a policy will be the best plans you ever made

Because once your liver goes, we expect to get “paid”

So when you “croak” my mom will miss your relations

But not for long, for we’ll take the money and go on vacations

I don’t want my mom around a “drunk”… That’s not the way it should be

Oh! Are you now feeling chest pains? Here, have another round…on me

When you pass out, we will call the ambulance without any hesitation

Then tonight I’ll go online… to make a “reservation”

While you are in the hospital, we should be back in about 4 days or five

And hopefully the insurance check will cover the trip if you’re no longer alive

So now I like my mom’s relationship with you…In fact, she is truly blessed

Because now we BOTH can get paid…after you have your cardiac arrest…


     They want Phantom Poet to go to rehab, but he said “No, no, no”

The late Gerald Levert and Christopher Williams singing together in concert with Brett Jolly