Brett Jolly’s Daily Thought (“Marriage” in principle

I recently heard people talk about wanting to get married. There is nothing wrong with that at all (in principle), but the interesting part of this discussion was that these particular individuals were not even IN a relationship to begin with. In other words, their aspirations are specifically to “get married.” While this sounds great in theory, I find that there is a missing element to this statement. You see, when people engage in this kind of talk it leads me to believe that you are more interested in the “concept” of “getting married” than you are of actually marrying the “right” person for you. Hear me out on this for a second. “Marriage” is basically a “title” and a “covenant” under God to live together as one. It is a GREAT union to form under the right circumstances. However, it does you no good if you are missing a certain piece, and that would be the “mate” you love and the one who loves you back. I say this because some people get “so enamored” with the principle of actually “getting” married that they neglect to remember that they need a “partner” first. Maybe I am wrong, but I believe the formula should go like this: First you meet someone and do things together so that you can get to know him or her (Some may refer to this activity as “dating”). Next, you build on that relationship through your interactions with each other (find out your similarities, your compatibilities, your likes and dislikes). Then, after discovering that the both of you are compatible enough in “most” facets of life then you can opt to take that very “last” step towards “matrimony.” To me this seems fairly simple… When you “pre-plan” your wedding without even having a mate then it is obvious where “your” focus is. Just like sex, “marriage” should be the “icing” on the cake. While the icing is “great” it should never be mistaken for the “entire” cake. The foundation you build through a relationship is important when contemplating marriage, because there really is no such thing as “I will learn to love him later on.” Also, if you go into a relationship automatically “thinking” about marriage then you could miss vital signs that you need to pay attention to. Don’t get blinded by your own “anxiety.” Be patient, be aware, and believe that through time you can find the “right” one for you. You should never get married to someone that you “settle” for… Above all, remember that you should want to be with the person who will always be your friend, because that “tight butt” will fade with time, and those “flowing locks” will change as we go through life. If you live long enough, all the physical traits that you started out with will be altered significantly, and then what you will have left will be your “friend.” Thank you for checking out my Daily Thought today, and please have a great one.

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