Brett Jolly’s Daily Thought (Topic: Sex and drinking)

Dear Brett,


Subject: Drinking and sex


Hey Man, first of all it’s very embarrassing writing this, but I must get some advice on the matter. After going out and having a couple of drinks, my girlfriend and I like to finalize the night with having good sex. Yet, I feel I have a problem. My girl and I go through lots of foreplay and I get erected. However, it takes me forever to try to ejaculate. Sometimes it doesn’t even happen. When an hour goes by (yes an hour) my girlfriend is now tired and appears very disappointed. I would like to know is it the alcohol or my age?(I’m 51 years old) I really don’t want to lose my  girlfriend. By the way, she’s 46 and has lots of energy. She hardly drinks. Please let me know something before it’s too late!


I don’t think this is such an embarrassing situation to mention at all (even though I really don’t know WHY my kids are over here giggling so hard). It is a well-known fact that alcohol slows down your reaction time, and impairs more than just your vision. In fact, alcohol is a major cause of impotence (erectile dysfunction). A lot of males fail to realize this, mainly because they think that booze will boost horniness. The truth is that it will increase the desire, but take away the performance. When you add your age to it then that could further impact the situation. I can’t tell you that the alcohol is a direct cause of the difficulties you are having, but I can tell you that you can get a proper assessment from visiting a doctor. While alcohol could still play a part in your problems there could be some other issues with your prostate as well (at 51 years of age, it would be wise to look into all possibilities). A doctor can give you a thorough examination and pinpoint what you are actually going through. I also think that periodically you might want to change your methods and try having sex WITHOUT drinking beforehand, and see if there is any noticeable difference in your performance. As for your girlfriend, the best way to keep her is to just communicate with her. Never allow her to feel that she is somehow “inadequate”. She should appreciate you opening up to her, telling her the truth and letting her know what steps you are taking to remedy the situation. I often think that women understand men better then “men” do. As we all progress in age we are not going to continue to be the sexual dynamos we once were (That won’t stop us from trying, though). At some point there will be change, but if you can keep your health up you will increase your chances of more “longevity” in your sexual conquests (hey, I like the way that sounds). Your girlfriend should appreciate it too, and hopefully love you even more for taking these steps for her. Please make sure you take consider these options before she gets to read this magnificent verse from the Phantom Poet:


The time has come where I just got to admit it

My girl and I drink, and then try to “hit it”

I get so impaired that I don’t know which one to enter

My girl on the right, the left, or the one in the center

We engage in lots of foreplay, and we never quit

When we’re finally there I say, “Honey, I think this is it”.

I go on for over an hour, but no ejaculation will I get

Then my girl gets tired and feels inadequate

I’m 51 years old, so is it my age or just the drinking?

It might be a little bit of both is what I’m now thinking

Last week sex was great, and that was much to my delight

But my girl told me that she switched my booze with “Sprite”

I was angry at first, because I didn’t believe she would make that change

She said, “At least you are functioning now, and able to hit it long range”

If I need to drink Sprite now, then I guess that will do fine

And maybe I’ll stop passing out BEFORE I get mine

Well, I need to thank my girl for giving me soda to get me back on track

Now we are back to hitting it right… and hell, I’ll “drink” to that…

So if you want to have great sex, cutting out the booze might do the trick

Or elsh yush can hav shloppey shex all the time (burp! Hic!)


                   How dry I “ain’t”… The Phantom Poet

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Singer/actor Tyrese Gibson and Brett Jolly performing for funeral of Teddy Pendergrass (Taken from national television coverage)